by Josephine; May 25, 2008
This article is about an important moment for every parent—the time when a child goes away from the parents’ home to an independent life. It is also about cultural differences that newcomers have to overcome in order to accommodate to a new country. Josephine demonstrates an example of good writing in which she does a miraculous job, reaching the hearts of her readers with her internal thoughts without using fancy words or special effects. In a short piece she shows not only feelings that she endures, but also her personality, which seems to be shy, but actually is brave, determined, and optimistic. I like the fact that Josephine’s decision to support her son’s independence was based on her own experience of entering an independent stage of life. From her writing, I have learned her optimistic attitude towards this, for me, painful subject. —Natalia, Writing 12 student.
“My son is moving out!” a friend of mine back at my native country, mentioned sadly on the phone. The day she refused to face, has come. Parents like to keep their children in their nests; no matter if their children are 13, or 30. This is what I grew up with; it is my culture.
In Canada, cultural understandings are different. From the newspapers, TV, and some people I have met, it is reversed. Parents here are happy to see their kids take a lift whatever they are planning to do. Some cases are, even though the parents were not sure about their children’s outcome, they still watch them leave, unworried.
In my college year, it was almost a revolution that I moved out to live around the campus and worked part-time to support myself. It was a shame to my parents that I left and fed myself, especially while I was still at the school. This is still happening in the country I come from.
On the other hand—I heard from my English teacher—his son who is a college student lives around the neighborhood independently. And his daughter is traveling all over the world. Examples like these rarely happen in my old culture even now. What are these living examples—so exciting!
This will be a new experience to me for which I will be happy to indulge in. Children will have their own episodes to explore, and parents will have more time and space for themselves. Everybody will get more chances and freedom to surf their own sky. This Canadian experience certainly will create a whole new aspect for me.